He sent 20 yuan gift even catch up with 100 beauty

Recently, the old counseling that chasing girls or send girlfriend in the end what gift is good, is not really want to send the legend that "lipstick". Are asked to send gifts and worry about, and I have a sister who recently told me that with her boyfriend broke up, my sister said:

I have never sent any of my gifts for several years together.

All kinds of festivals have not had a birthday, but I give him a lot of things, this man I feel extinct how back I met.

My heart really is not what you want, just some important time I do not feel anything that is remembered to be taken seriously.

When we had just met, he would give me some surprises, but it was not as good as ever before, even at some point when I had sent me some chocolate.

She finished my heart after a moment of silence, I had to understand the persuasion they can continue.

But I know that the situation is not because a gift is so simple, but a share in the other heart.

Some of the brothers must think that things to the woman is to worship the gold material, those who know a few days in the WeChat to give you a mass "to a red envelope, like to send 5.20, that is friendship on the 8.8 people For a group.

In fact, you have to know that the real girl is not the kind of false account of the number of people who do not you that a few dollars in the woman's heart is not really want something. I am talking about the kind of woman who yearn for love.

Most of the girls are now very independent, and beautiful girls may earn more than men have more.

In their inner gifts are not so important, care about your share of the mind through this mind to get a sense of security.

To see if you can make her feel loved, be valued, be remembered.

We every day in addition to work, study, eat sleep enough dull, so more is to let love hold freshness, in the plain days to create some small surprises, which is to give emotional value.

Suppose that you remember a special day, personally make a meal, buy a bottle of red wine, point the red candle. Quietly prepared to find a lot of places for you to buy like a long time shoes.

Maybe you do green pepper scrambled eggs do not necessarily her appetite, and send her shoes do not necessarily make you like, but we said love needs to invest in each other theory, that is, you take the initiative to pay each other time and energy.

This time no one is still in the ears of love fairy tale alive, through action to let each other to perceive. So that in your pursuit and operation to let each other feel your mind, this love is a healthy development.

Each other to make things for each other, recall, you were at the scene, these full of memories are a way to enhance the performance of love.

So, we see a lot of chicken soup this is the reason why some people see, some people love, there are some ritual things in the inside, and this sense of ritual is sure to use action to express. It is like the front of the other to remember the special day between each other. got it

Business love surprises just said the need for a sense of ritual, then the ritual in the end what is it Is your investment for each other, energy, action and feelings for your investment between the behavior.

This behavior will be in your special moment, such as the anniversary, such as the other birthday, such as the understanding of a hundred days, humans can not help these days classified as a special meaning of the moment, at the moment you do some rituals , Especially you usually did not do, suddenly attack this effect is definitely greater than the power of nuclear bombs do not believe you try.

But often after a sense of ritual, you get a deep emotional experience between you, you will happen that night to practice love harder than ever increased by more than 25.44 percent.

It is like a lot of people spend all mind to hold a grand birthday party, wedding and so on

Its purpose is through this ceremony, to tell the other side of her (he) is important.

Brothers now understand that sometimes women do not receive gifts and angry, not because of their material, but because she did not feel that they are taken seriously, where you do not feel the sense of presence and security, of course, do not rule out some of the material Of the girls, but this is not what we want to talk about today.

Then how do we judge the material women and non-material women, so that you use a month's living expenses to buy her expensive gifts, or tell you her sister who you received a tens of thousands of bags, while the other non-material female She needs only you are willing to pay some of her little thoughts.

Of course, this moment there has been a problem, some men give their wages card to her, and what to buy their own direct brush, I do not have this troubled.

This is not right ah, assuming that you birthday, the other prepared a meal of meticulous food, arranged a beautiful romantic get along with the scene and your birthday when she WeChat to you hit a 5200 yuan red envelope, so you want to buy what to buy what Is this feeling the same? To be honest you play money directly this way is a very dangerous behavior.

Once and twice do not feel, but for a long time you play money into a matter of course. The other side in this state of mind, long-term feelings of loneliness, then the spirit does not fill fill. That is why I can recognize a lot of nurtured beauty. So if you are the money you are happy now, or are you happy?

So this is not a matter of money, but in the end you can let each other feel a sense of presence and security. This is one of the most troubled students in our condition. Sometimes the money is really nothing.

Some people say that these rituals are really tired, I want to love is understand each other, mutual understanding know very well.

Ok, how do you know each other? Through the sweet words to let each other ears love? Do you think your love is your pursuit of the other through the language can go to the end of it?

In the eyes of people now, no action of things really will not be long, because now people are very strong self-consciousness, do not want to be so ideal things, and no action will sooner or later finished.

Love is not a commodity, not a trade deal, love itself can not be quantified. So you do not know which day it smells and vanishes.

So, whether it is the pursuit or business love, the more can not forget to use action to express love.

Do not think that time to know each other for a long time, and then do not want to go to mind to express, tired and trouble and so on. Is this tired? Really tired, but now what is not tired?

Sometimes you do not need to become Sicong, you need is the passage of time, as you kept a long time after a long Pistons movement, but also for each other to spend their minds. It will be rewarded, of course, if you do not want, then when I did not say.

With the way of action, so that love becomes tangible.

Occasionally eyebrow pencil, a bottle of perfume, not much money, but in exchange for is full of moving.

The focus is not what you sent, but who you are, you still miss her. If you keep it alone you are single

So to chat with girls, in order to let her like you

Why, sleep, good to sleep well, good night.
Why, at work, good on it, do not be too tired.
Why, eat, eat it, cold day do not eat too cold.
Why, at home, good slow, pay attention to safety on the road.
Why, in the busy, uh, okay.

Did you get up every day? What did you eat at noon? What did you eat at night? Like punching each other.

This is a section of the distance of love every day repeat the steps, that is, you do not want to boring but can not find any cut into the point, become cautious, for fear that the other side is not a reply, want to say that every day into such a dead cycle.

Waiting for the feelings, waiting for a person is not to get off work on the bus, bus even if the point, I know later it will always come, and you, I never know, when you come, you will not come.

Go out will bring mobile power, for fear that no electricity missed your call, hear the news tone, it will put down everything to see if it is you.

Do not return to the letter, it seems to disappear. Hung up the phone, you can not contact you.

Not a little bit of news, to the late night, you casually back to a sentence, busy.

On the side of the environment, because the strange slowly lost interest, slowly, can only say empty words "I miss you".

You say So I wrapped myself in the blanket, closed my eyes, uh, hug myself.

Do not know from when, the answer is gradually replaced by a "uh" word.
Do not know from when, chatting up any topic will feel embarrassed.
Do not know from when, mutual encouragement into a pressure.
Do not know from when, ridicule is also understood as a despise.
Text can not hear the tone, the phone can not see the expression. A cavity enthusiastic about chatting, the other side is indifferent to respond, silently endure persistence, the other said that do not go on.

Silence, contradiction, I try to retain, try to find the topic, try not to make you feel the pressure of the tone, you are on the other side of the screen like a lake late autumn water, unmoved, but also cold. Because silence, in fact, you already know that there is a little change, you may even know what to happen next, but only wait for the silence of all the will to dry all the will.

Silence this kind of thing, will continue to render, for the first time, there will be a second time. Because of my bad words so that today.

"Hey, it was hit today."
"Ye ye?"
"In the back, I made a micro letter with her, every time playing a lot of words, she said a 'uh', or say a 'oh' ... ..."

On the "ah", "oh", "amount", "good" ... ... really a very frightening thing.

Once in the process of chatting, encounter any of these words, basically that "I am busy, chat ends."

If the other side is the leader, it is better to say that the leadership is generally the case.

The key is a lot of time, the other may be a person of their own love. Received such a cold response, a lot of people can not help but sad to come, there is a second loss.

Today for everyone to talk about "ah" and "uh uh" behind the story. How to make your chat more interesting?



When chatting, people are more warm

What do we think about what the children would first say?

Yes, "mother", "rake", the basic is the word.

Echo is the repetition of syllables, is a very common form of language, prevalent in the name and network language. Data were analyzed for 25578 names, and found that about 3% of people use the name of the song, which found that the proportion of women using the name of the song is much higher than men.

The researchers believe that the reason for this phenomenon is that the stack will convey the intimate and soft impression, this impression and people's expectations of women, but with people's expectations of men.

In the online chat, people often use the stack, such as "ah", "baby", "kiss", "what Mody", "Meng Meng da" and so on, the stack will give people a lively and lovely feeling An atmosphere full of playfulness in some cases to create an ambiguous atmosphere.

Of course, there are exceptions, such as "Oh". People with the characteristics of the baby will stimulate the formation of a special psychological representation, that is, infant schema.

The reason why the stack will give us a warm feeling, because the stack of emotions inspired our baby icon. An important difference between children's voice and adult voice is that children's voice contains a lot of overlap.

Moreover, adults and children in the communication and more use of overlapping music, such as "eat rice", "sleep" If you are a man so sure that people feel very naive, but for some time it is possible Flirting, for example, the character of the lovely sister. She said when you can be stacked when the letter, the same nature to attract each other is the principle of this.

We have some unique characteristics of the baby with a natural love and preferences, the baby's lovely, innocent, without any danger, in our most primitive memories, but also in our breeding future generations of good vision.

So, in the WeChat chat, others back to a word, and back to the word has a wide variety.

Especially back to the two overlapping words, will give you a warm feeling, you will have a feeling of chatting with the children's paper, will feel more enthusiasm for each other, more people have a sense of security.

On the contrary, a "uh" word will make you feel and is a very decent people chat, official business, cold, no human taste children.

The less the word, the more busy I am

The other reply to the word very little, do not even reply to you, there may be really busy, it may have to be installed very busy

In life, often heard around the little partner said, I am so busy.

In fact, when these words, it is likely to cause each other's psychological discomfort: Nima, the world you are busy, I am very busy is not it? Say that they are busy (except for the very busy), in fact, is a self-carrying performance.

Busy, what does that mean? Means that they are more important, means that there are a lot of people looking for, means that a lot of resources, means that they have a goal to pursue.

Busy is relative

, If not important to their own people, I am not busy is busy, valuable relationship to their own, and then busy is not busy. Start you give each other a kind of you are busy, but then slowly familiar with, give each other a busy impression, but you take the time with each other together. On the other is a prelude to attract. Think about it is not such a reason. You use your busy time to accompany her, to each other a prizes of treatment. Naturally the other side will be very happy.

Busy, behind the potential meaning is that my time is more valuable than your time, I and you are a distance between, my position is higher than you, but I still choose to accompany you.

 Whether it is in one to one chat, or in the micro-credit group, if you feel in which a higher status, it certainly can not speak, but nothing need to resound.

Because, you speak too much, others will think you are very busy, how a valuable person may be so busy, then with their own identity does not match.

So, reply to you a "uh" or "good", that has been read, but sorry, I do not have time to play the second word.

Cherish words such as gold is to prove my ability to strong my high value



Looked at the above paragraphs, is not that those who reply to the words of a small number of people loaded, but also very annoying?
In fact, really is not.

If it is you, in certain occasions and scenarios, can only do so. Can say a word, you may only say two words, you can say two words, you may just say a word.

In addition to just mentioned that I am busy, but also because of what? Social cognition has two basic dimensions, namely enthusiasm and ability.

When we evaluate a person, we often feel that these two dimensions are difficult to have on the same person.

For example, if we often drink with a person to eat and sing, it is difficult to meet him / her with the need to complete the difficult things with each other.

On the contrary, those who often have high marks, looks valuable people, most of you do not want to travel with him / her, with entertainment.

In other words, a high-enthusiasm person is considered to be low-power, and a capable person is considered to be low enthusiasm, enthusiasm and ability seems to be a mutual compensation between the relationship. In the WeChat exchanges is the case, if you are too enthusiastic, others will feel that you are very low. Especially a man with a woman just know the chat will be a mad hair SMS, show you very busy. The love for her is very strong. This is a non-attractive low-value performance.

A day made "ha ha" "What Mody" "Meng Meng da" people, others will think you will only fun to sell Meng, no strength.

In impression management, people will use the enthusiasm and ability to compensate the relationship to achieve the purpose of upgrading or enthusiasm.

When people want to show higher ability, they will reduce their enthusiasm, and when people want to show more enthusiasm, it will reduce its performance. In the process of network communication, to show their ability or enthusiasm often depends on the status of the object and their relationship to maintain the motivation.

In general, high status people to show themselves as high as possible, low status of people to show themselves as much as possible to be highly enthusiastic.

If in a micro-credit group, if their status is higher, they must show the more capable look, it can not be too "Oh".

And those who are lower status, the best performance was a little warm. Of course, EQ people will be appropriate to balance the relationship between enthusiasm and ability.

Even if they are relatively cattle, in the ability to show their own at the same time (for example, speak much), without losing the enthusiasm (occasionally selling a Meng, to a statement) do not pretend to force.

To do to attract a woman first, to establish a few awareness:

1, no sister is not soaked, but the size of the price only (where the price, including time, money, etc.) mentality do not worry.

2, women are sexy there will be lonely time, we call these times as a window. Especially on the WeChat, street, explore, friends on the software, there is no impeccable woman;

3, be patient, gentlemanly, not covet money;

Ready to work:

1, prepare a good picture, pass a positive image of the sun humor. Unless you just want to face the sister line, or must use the real picture clear and natural before have said how to set up here do not say.

Long handsome, can be used directly with the life photos, as far as possible natural; looks poor, take pictures when you can use the angle slightly modified, but must not be outrageous, or meet, sister see you do not board, the hearts of the score on the big Discounted

There is a small skill, you can choose with a small animal photo, most of my sister are like small animals, love the house and Ukraine, the impression of your natural will not be bad;

2, to prepare a good signature, to convey you is a story of the man, kind man, the connotation of the man. Such as: know how to choose, know how to give up, endure loneliness, stand the temptation;

After the preparation work is done, the following into the actual stage of operation: Here, to remind one, do not use what shake, that thing really useless, to ten people out, there are nine male business; Drift bottle function, but not to use, but the field and the free can. I am here to focus on the function of the people around; this more pit, I looked at the next one but you click there are a lot of the opposite sex plus you. Are generally gray industry. Photos are not the right version of the goods.

3, to find the object

What kind of girl may play with you night, or even do long "friends" There are roughly three:

First, eighteen nine-year-old girl, the pursuit of stimulation, this little sister can not be met, the number is relatively small;

Second, twenty-four five of the girls, if the chat came, the basic can do long-term "friends", even a little lover means. The best quality of the basic is this;

Third, more than 30 empty young women, the basic are very direct "friends", on call. The highest success rate is such a crowd.

How do you distinguish potential "buddy" objects from the crowd?

Three ways, one is to see the head, do not put the real picture of the general than the real head of the easy, about why? Because people have a self-protection instinct, if the sister has that little mind, basically will not put the real head. Those who get the head of the unusual beautiful are very difficult, for those who want to eat fast food, it is recommended to give up the need to follow the process;

Second, to see the signature, all signed a circle of friends revealed lonely, empty, boring meaning of the basic play, but careful wine care;

Three is to see the time, do not sleep at night, the basic are boring empty empty, looking forward to the other half. This time the basic sister are lying on the bed to play mobile phones, comfortable body, this time that the highest success rate;

Find the object, the next is to say hello. There is a situation that my sister take the initiative to say hello to you, then congratulations, you have been successful 80% of the.

Select the quasi-chat time to find a good object after the greeting is how to greet my sister will not cause the sister's resentment, thereby increasing the possibility of adoption, there are three ways

1, direct type, directly say hi, and then express this situation is the effort, you can batch say hello, save time; remember not too straightforward, sister for the stranger's wary is very high, must take a certain basis Avatar

2, from the other side of the head to start, how to boast the other's how the head, nice to say that your picture looks like a picture The The Will you fire? The use of curiosity attention to multi-use rhetorical question, you can also deliberately wrong, people have a correction of instinct, you are wrong, the other can not help but to correct you, this thing becomes;

3, from the other party to start the name of the name, if the sister's signature is a question, you directly answer that question, if what kind of sigh and the like, you say hello as much as possible to rely on the above

It is worth reminding that not every sister will add you, we do not need every sister will add us, ten inside there are two or three through it. After that, is how to find a topic chat.

It is necessary to remind you that the friends who can ask you through your friends are basically not annoying you or are slightly curious about you. Before you start chatting, you need to adjust your mind and think of each other as an old friend in your heart. gentle.

4, grafts make you rich resources: If you are too lazy to get their own photos. Go to Taobao first buy a probe, street vendors it Microblogging to find a handsome photo. Remember the bar logo cut off. Qi Qi software requirements of the number of photos, began to simply express love greeting it There are brothers who asked this is someone else's photo is not me ah. The meeting will be finished. Then the way I tell you, this time you simply talk a few words. You told the girl said: "I just have a leadership to see me chat with you, she would like to know with you." Because just chatting sister will not refuse, and then find a way you think Your own best to see the photos sent to him, and then add WeChat it Now you have more women online resources.

Then in the chat process: you think of each other as an old friend, your chat language will release this information, virtually affect the sister's emotions, to create a good chat atmosphere, this atmosphere will guide you relationship Progressive.