4 factors of disharmony between husband and wife

Couples sex life disharmony most is not due to disease or physiological disorders, or psychological problems, often due to one or both of the parties there are some mistakes in the idea, which leads to contradictions and conflicts of the specific behavior.

1, too much emphasis on the number and frequency of sexual life
There is a consensus among men, sex life seems more, this man is more qualified, more masculine; his wife is more satisfied, more happiness. In turn, fewer husband is said to be "not to wait on (or cope with) wife", is considered to be "not man".
In fact, most wives do not think so, emotional communication and sex life, according to the expert survey of 31 large and medium-sized city of 1279 couples (the following figures are according to the survey, 78%) wife pay more attention to the former, but not the latter. The number of sex and sex life quality (pure wife can get much from the climax in comparison, 85%) wife hope to obtain a high quality, not quantity. Man's sex life is not actually The more, the better. ".
Between about 30 to 35 years old, more than half of the husband to experience their sexual needs actually quietly changed, also need to seek from a large number of high quality, hope to have a deep emotional communication and experience. Because of this, if a man believes in the concept of love, life is the main measure of frequency the standard of marital harmony, even is the only standard, then he is likely to have two kinds of behavior mistakes.

2, too much emphasis on the role of skills
In certain specific couples, extremely appropriate skills will have beneficial effects. But we must not forget the skills, must have 2 basic conditions: first, both husband and wife must be voluntary, really need. Otherwise, the other is not only a violation of human dignity, but also cause psychological damage both sides, will not produce good results. Secondly, the feelings of the couple must be quite good.

3, too narrow understanding of sexual life
In the married life, men will eventually appear ejaculation, but all this is not sex life, it is not the primary goal. Sexual life is the expression vector of love. It must include mental preparation in advance, and the final result depends largely on the preparation stage is appropriate, whether fully.
First, he may ignore or deny his wife's emotional needs, the sex life is simple, a series of actions, personality and emotional serious will greatly hurt his wife. Second, he might add to their psychological burden virtually.
Once the older, or encounter special circumstances, can not maintain a high frequency what he thinks, will suspect you have impotence, premature ejaculation disease, will fear "sorry wife", and even doubt or disappointed with her whole personality and life goals. As a result, more stronger, more by accident.
In fact, the frequency of sexual life of men, is basically determined by the physiological status and age, almost all the peoples of the world, and almost every man's life, there will be some times less, and some times, do not talk to "how many times" this problem.

A man of charm lies in mature personality style, understanding rich thick bosom and deep emotion attachment. If you do not pay attention to these aspects of self-cultivation, but blindly boasting of concern or misunderstanding frequency, then men will have sex life difficult to get out.

4, the skills used must apply
Any feelings and knowledge is not the same, any hearsay and sciolistic, will cause adverse effect on skills. Especially important is the skill itself neither create love and concern, it is difficult to fully communicate. In our country, at least half the number above the wife is not need to also don't appreciate the husband's sexual techniques.

In particular, they dislike her husband as a kind of "tools" or "stage", so that men are there to "use" or "performance", in this case, the husband and wife will become increasingly isolated, indifferent and even conflict
All happy couples know, the most advanced, the most common sexual techniques, but the heart is actually not the action, many of the possible attachment, love, intimacy and love and care into life. Some couples are concentrated on the husband to their physiological processes as the first one, can not be adjusted, the results are often too eager, rough and simple.