Non-virgins women cause men's disgust, aloof and irony. Men of this kind of attitude, will leave a deep and permanent to a woman's life.
For the first time she called me and said she had dazzled, often dizzy or suddenly. She says it is a wrong cause of allergies, western medicine for a long time to cure. Now she eat every day a sedative to maintain a normal life. She ask me: "this kind of disease can cure?"
She spoke softly fine gas, breath smells of temptation - to test if I care about/for patients, understanding woman, have professional feeling, can judge her questions.
I'm dizzy disease, explains: a drug allergy may not have long-term dizzy. From the perspective of psychology, sudden outburst of dazzling may be a manic depressive mood disorder neurosis, may be allergic to some kind of mental factors stimulation reactions.
I asked her, "what are you afraid of mental stimulation?"
She softly hum a long time, to avoid answer, put down the phone.
The second call, she said she come when menstruation always check, quantity is little and abdominal pain. She asked: I'm looking for western medicine or Chinese medicine? Women are secretive shy, she again in the test, like strange animals close to you.
I explained, western medicine of traditional Chinese medicine will do. From the perspective of psychology, menstruation to be not moved is likely and modern ease. Huangdi neijing, the eye and kidney both called "Ming, Ming is of vital essence, spirit, qi, blood coagulation. Dizzy or and menstruation to be not moved, generally referred to as the "Ming fire failure, is mental stress and dissipation caused by excessive exhaustion syndrome of qi and blood, and the collapse disorder.
I asked her: "do you have any stress?"
She give a long time, low voice say: men don't go home.
I asked her about the situation, in order to help her analysis is analyzed.
She said she live very tired, very hard. Depression and weakens our body. Because the previous didn't say a word, in front of children. She is 32 years old this year, a company's staff, side has a 9 year old daughter. Before her marriage, the man is a driver, later when the cadre, is now a section head. Men seldom go home in two years. He operates a big team, good to eat, play, sleep a lot. She said: he often one or two months is not appearance, he seemed to be no this home.
"You said he didn't go home what reason be?"
"... status has changed, the heart has changed."
I say with smile: "when a section chief had thrown his wife don't female, common sense; slightly turned against ruthless men grow, there will be other hidden reasons. I think you don't have the courage to say the truth!"
She was silent a long time, said shyly: "... he found me and others had two cohabiting before marriage history. My first two love failed. Married ten years, I never told him."
"Privacy exposure, relationship nervous!"
"He didn't give money at home. I a person living with children."
"I understand. Losing your virginity is the point of your psychological allergy."
I explained: lost their virginity problem can cause a woman's mood disorders. Women's studies specialist from the French famous simone DE beauvoir said in his book what women are "non-virgins women cause men's disgust, cold and irony. Men of this kind of attitude, will leave a deep and permanent to a woman's life. The influence of virginity can stimulate the man's enthusiasm and passion, it can give a woman with confidence, is very helpful to her. She is being love person, instead will cause inferiority complex, sometimes further cause permanent mania or depression."
She was on the phone to hum softly, says she understand what I mean.
I explained: lost their virginity anxiety will be more terrible than drug allergy reaction of body and mind. Wife, the charm of the role, dignity and value, to be supported by her chastity; Losing your virginity is found, is locked in a sensitive woman will be punished, abused, abandoned feel apprehensive.
In huangdi neijing says: feel apprehensive contemplation is frustrating, feel the fear, rather than flow her. Sad to move in, exhaust and loss; No sorrow sorrow, gas block; Angry, confused and not cure; Fear of god and don't accept. Feel apprehensive is; Fear is the palpitate; Flow Yin is not cut continuously, continuous panic is disorderly.
Aroused by constant contemplation, sorrow, sorrow, fear, will be frustrating and pure, her breath, confusion, this is manic - depressive symptoms of mental faculties, dizzy giddy and menstruation to be not moved is the symptom of body reaction, it as the mood change fluctuated.
She said bitterly: "... I know, I in torture yourself. You said, what should I do?"
I advice said: "most men of his wife's chastity demanding unreasonable. Problem once triggered, even if the original very conjugal love of husband and wife, resentment can suddenly burst. This hostility is difficult to overcome. You can't push yourself to a man is not willing to accept you?"
She avoided answering my questions, said xie, put the phone down.
The third time on the phone, she said her daughter also suffer from mental illness. She said: the nine-year-old girl often talk about a word is live boring, grades have declined.
I said, this is the result of your thoughts and deeds, the influence on her. Old his mind you talk to her, you old emotions to her throwing herself, the girl's ability to take a hint is quite keen, she said it was your words.
"... it was. I live is really boring!"
Said "don't bend, important facts. How long do you men have never been in bed with you?"
"... two years."
"I understand. Is your mental abuse stimuli."
I explained that her husband refused to bed with his wife, put her aside, this is called "abuse". A man's sexual abuse we can be explained from three possibilities:
The first possibility is hate. "Sexual aversion" is the root cause of male human nature indifference of the most common. Sexual aversion usually come from for his wife's resentment and hatred of rival in love. Wife, call people despise the disadvantage of, she can only stir up painful memories in his mind and emotions. Sex is not clean and food not clean, inner resistance to suppress the interest.
The second is likely to be punished. "Punishment" is blatantly messing around on the outside of marriage, it contains obvious critical and provocation to his wife, but to punish her sorry all of his, and punish oneself wrong marriage choice. Punishment is a kind of secret revenge, secret lynching.
A third possibility is sexual perversion. Psychological abnormalities "kink," said the man. Simone DE beauvoir said: "some men spirit is not normal, originated in the early stages of the married life. The new wife of suspicion and dislike of her losing her virginity, jealous of her privacy, can form character, gloomy and cold. A man's psychological, bruised will hate a woman's body, the soul of contempt for women, which his wife is a toxic pathogen, dirty animals. Men often mean to his wife know he the mood, to insult her, discrimination, abuse her." Women's psychological symptoms most morbid reproach originated in the bed.
She said bitterly: "... I know, he intentionally torture me. You said, what should I do?"
My advice: "if a man can't understand your past, can't accept your mistake, can't terminate his sexual abuse, in order to prevent deterioration of the situation, the best way out is 36 plan go on - to break up."
She sighs softly on the phone, said she was on the way out of vacant and wince.
I haven't got a phone call from her. No one can predict how will this thin, weak woman, but I believe she made clear a question: do women should pay attention to their virginity, it is the foundation of a happy marriage, not playing with fire.
This example give us two notable questions:
It is women's chastity
Women's chastity is one of the human civilization to sex the same beliefs and values. Chastity is always with women's personality charm clasp. Lost their virginity will lost, lost their virginity will imbalances, losing her virginity will be broken, lost their virginity will be in the doghouse. Love this game also has its own rules, violate the rules will be punished.
Recently published a book translated by the famous scientist, Mr Pan called the book of the journal American sex lives. This book is the organization in 1994, a large number of social scientists for the first time of sexual practices and beliefs to the American people the authority of the survey report.
In chapter one sex and social, in order to study the American attitude toward sex and beliefs and how the valuation behavior, investigators of a large number of respondents 9 questions the first question is: how do you comment on premarital sex: it is never wrong? Accidental error? Or don't mistake? Most of them (mainly women) answer is an understanding of and never mistake (though those are 58% yourself in had had sex before marriage.
This suggests that chaste women self recognition of the life, has the special components and special value. Chastity is a mature experience of people's sexual attitudes and beliefs. Once the beliefs and attitudes form cannot discuss, can't compromise. Chastity beyond national boundaries, beyond the era. To their youth frivolous woman not happy memories, but full of part and frustration, and significant price for violations of human nature.
Second, the marital violence
According to experts predict that marital violence tendency in the 21st century, characterized by physical abuse will reduce the husband to his wife, psychological abuse will increase; And sexual abuse is the main form of spiritual violence. Sexual abuse because of its privacy, it is hard to be social awareness, is decided by the law, and in which women were hit, damage and destruction, as physical violence.
The huangdi neijing, the main reason of the women crazy for sorrow hunger. Its language yue: valid, first from sad also, pleased forget, bitter anger, good afraid of, have to fears of hunger. Worry about hunger is the basic desire of life walks famine in mood and sorrow; The Fried sorrow first show is often from sad, often forget things, often angry, often panic, this is a prelude to a rampage.
The world famous psychologist sigmund Freud thinks a woman's sex life is not satisfy (forced to endure desire, smothering desire) is the total of all mental disease. Sexual abuse as a covert form of violence in a marriage, should be a great deal of attention in social, legal, and family.
For the first time she called me and said she had dazzled, often dizzy or suddenly. She says it is a wrong cause of allergies, western medicine for a long time to cure. Now she eat every day a sedative to maintain a normal life. She ask me: "this kind of disease can cure?"
She spoke softly fine gas, breath smells of temptation - to test if I care about/for patients, understanding woman, have professional feeling, can judge her questions.
I'm dizzy disease, explains: a drug allergy may not have long-term dizzy. From the perspective of psychology, sudden outburst of dazzling may be a manic depressive mood disorder neurosis, may be allergic to some kind of mental factors stimulation reactions.
I asked her, "what are you afraid of mental stimulation?"
She softly hum a long time, to avoid answer, put down the phone.
The second call, she said she come when menstruation always check, quantity is little and abdominal pain. She asked: I'm looking for western medicine or Chinese medicine? Women are secretive shy, she again in the test, like strange animals close to you.
I asked her: "do you have any stress?"
She give a long time, low voice say: men don't go home.
I asked her about the situation, in order to help her analysis is analyzed.
She said she live very tired, very hard. Depression and weakens our body. Because the previous didn't say a word, in front of children. She is 32 years old this year, a company's staff, side has a 9 year old daughter. Before her marriage, the man is a driver, later when the cadre, is now a section head. Men seldom go home in two years. He operates a big team, good to eat, play, sleep a lot. She said: he often one or two months is not appearance, he seemed to be no this home.
"You said he didn't go home what reason be?"
"... status has changed, the heart has changed."
I say with smile: "when a section chief had thrown his wife don't female, common sense; slightly turned against ruthless men grow, there will be other hidden reasons. I think you don't have the courage to say the truth!"
She was silent a long time, said shyly: "... he found me and others had two cohabiting before marriage history. My first two love failed. Married ten years, I never told him."
"Privacy exposure, relationship nervous!"
"He didn't give money at home. I a person living with children."
I explained: lost their virginity problem can cause a woman's mood disorders. Women's studies specialist from the French famous simone DE beauvoir said in his book what women are "non-virgins women cause men's disgust, cold and irony. Men of this kind of attitude, will leave a deep and permanent to a woman's life. The influence of virginity can stimulate the man's enthusiasm and passion, it can give a woman with confidence, is very helpful to her. She is being love person, instead will cause inferiority complex, sometimes further cause permanent mania or depression."
She was on the phone to hum softly, says she understand what I mean.
I explained: lost their virginity anxiety will be more terrible than drug allergy reaction of body and mind. Wife, the charm of the role, dignity and value, to be supported by her chastity; Losing your virginity is found, is locked in a sensitive woman will be punished, abused, abandoned feel apprehensive.
In huangdi neijing says: feel apprehensive contemplation is frustrating, feel the fear, rather than flow her. Sad to move in, exhaust and loss; No sorrow sorrow, gas block; Angry, confused and not cure; Fear of god and don't accept. Feel apprehensive is; Fear is the palpitate; Flow Yin is not cut continuously, continuous panic is disorderly.
Aroused by constant contemplation, sorrow, sorrow, fear, will be frustrating and pure, her breath, confusion, this is manic - depressive symptoms of mental faculties, dizzy giddy and menstruation to be not moved is the symptom of body reaction, it as the mood change fluctuated.
I advice said: "most men of his wife's chastity demanding unreasonable. Problem once triggered, even if the original very conjugal love of husband and wife, resentment can suddenly burst. This hostility is difficult to overcome. You can't push yourself to a man is not willing to accept you?"
She avoided answering my questions, said xie, put the phone down.
The third time on the phone, she said her daughter also suffer from mental illness. She said: the nine-year-old girl often talk about a word is live boring, grades have declined.
I said, this is the result of your thoughts and deeds, the influence on her. Old his mind you talk to her, you old emotions to her throwing herself, the girl's ability to take a hint is quite keen, she said it was your words.
"... it was. I live is really boring!"
Said "don't bend, important facts. How long do you men have never been in bed with you?"
"... two years."
"I understand. Is your mental abuse stimuli."
I explained that her husband refused to bed with his wife, put her aside, this is called "abuse". A man's sexual abuse we can be explained from three possibilities:
The second is likely to be punished. "Punishment" is blatantly messing around on the outside of marriage, it contains obvious critical and provocation to his wife, but to punish her sorry all of his, and punish oneself wrong marriage choice. Punishment is a kind of secret revenge, secret lynching.
A third possibility is sexual perversion. Psychological abnormalities "kink," said the man. Simone DE beauvoir said: "some men spirit is not normal, originated in the early stages of the married life. The new wife of suspicion and dislike of her losing her virginity, jealous of her privacy, can form character, gloomy and cold. A man's psychological, bruised will hate a woman's body, the soul of contempt for women, which his wife is a toxic pathogen, dirty animals. Men often mean to his wife know he the mood, to insult her, discrimination, abuse her." Women's psychological symptoms most morbid reproach originated in the bed.
She said bitterly: "... I know, he intentionally torture me. You said, what should I do?"
My advice: "if a man can't understand your past, can't accept your mistake, can't terminate his sexual abuse, in order to prevent deterioration of the situation, the best way out is 36 plan go on - to break up."
She sighs softly on the phone, said she was on the way out of vacant and wince.
I haven't got a phone call from her. No one can predict how will this thin, weak woman, but I believe she made clear a question: do women should pay attention to their virginity, it is the foundation of a happy marriage, not playing with fire.
This example give us two notable questions:
It is women's chastity
Recently published a book translated by the famous scientist, Mr Pan called the book of the journal American sex lives. This book is the organization in 1994, a large number of social scientists for the first time of sexual practices and beliefs to the American people the authority of the survey report.
In chapter one sex and social, in order to study the American attitude toward sex and beliefs and how the valuation behavior, investigators of a large number of respondents 9 questions the first question is: how do you comment on premarital sex: it is never wrong? Accidental error? Or don't mistake? Most of them (mainly women) answer is an understanding of and never mistake (though those are 58% yourself in had had sex before marriage.
This suggests that chaste women self recognition of the life, has the special components and special value. Chastity is a mature experience of people's sexual attitudes and beliefs. Once the beliefs and attitudes form cannot discuss, can't compromise. Chastity beyond national boundaries, beyond the era. To their youth frivolous woman not happy memories, but full of part and frustration, and significant price for violations of human nature.
Second, the marital violence
According to experts predict that marital violence tendency in the 21st century, characterized by physical abuse will reduce the husband to his wife, psychological abuse will increase; And sexual abuse is the main form of spiritual violence. Sexual abuse because of its privacy, it is hard to be social awareness, is decided by the law, and in which women were hit, damage and destruction, as physical violence.
The world famous psychologist sigmund Freud thinks a woman's sex life is not satisfy (forced to endure desire, smothering desire) is the total of all mental disease. Sexual abuse as a covert form of violence in a marriage, should be a great deal of attention in social, legal, and family.
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