I've heard a real story, a couple about to get engaged. The girl, tentatively called her small Yao, Xiao Yao directed the groom's feeling is good old man, dead set on her, toe, let him go to the left will not go right, so a little character. Xiao Yao like bad boy, that is a bit rebellious, difficult to difficult type, so from the beginning, a small Yao on the marriage uneasy.
At a distance of only three months of the wedding, the groom's hair made a small look. Xiao Yao first saw him, heart on the bang bang, because the boy is her food, big man, muscular, the most charming smile.
Three people all weekend together, small Yao and the groom's hair is very obvious from the chemical reaction. While the groom is not, he said to Xiao Yao, you do not, the groom is not good, if you decide not to marry, and then go to him.
At that time, a small Yao made a mistake to be said. She thought she had a desire to others, it is impossible to really love the groom. So the whole thing told the prospective groom, canceled the engagement. The groom was injured, both families are very disappointed. Because they have been together for 6 years, the two people get along very well, we all feel that two people are made of a perfect match.
Xiao Yao really went to the bad boy, want to know with the boy 's chemical reaction is not true. 2 months down, she found two people simply do not get together. Boys do not want to settle down, like to go out to play, but a workaholic, do not work like a person to stay when he felt a small Yao occupied his personal space. 2 months down, it is clear that two people is the game. Xiao Yao very painful to leave.
At first she thought it was because she did not like the groom, or she will not produce hormones to others. Later, in retrospect. She found herself wrong, the problem in their own, not ready to marry the state.
So, I want to talk about today, if you have the desire of others, it shows you do not love your partner yet?
In the animal kingdom, geese are very specific animals. If a goose is dead, its partner will not find another goose. But we are not geese, our life cycle is much longer than the goose. If you lose a partner, or lose interest in a partner, we can find one. We are in addition to their lover, to see more than two, is to see two things are very natural, are from the results of biological instinct.
We have a point of view, in order to keep love, it must be loyal.
However, love is deep, does not mean that we will not have a chemical reaction to others.
If the desire to feel that this shows that they do not love each other, and to have doubts, and feel to go with the feelings, to break up, it is not right, this thing to separate. Like the story of a small Yao, do not treat this as you, your partner lacks the sign of love.
Say another story.
Shirley met Mr. Now, Daniel, on a vacation.
Shirley did not like Daniel in the beginning, in the resort, she saw him with every beautiful girl accosted. She intuition Daniel is not fly, is a playboy.
Until one day, 2 people walk to dawn, could not finish, they fall in love.
To determine the relationship, Shirley said his own questions, Daniel asked her, do you think I betrayed you? You know I did not. I am a social animal, I will have a good impression on other women, but I will not take this as love, it will not affect my feelings with you, I love you is profound and lasting.
Shirley did not believe the beginning, then at a ball, she had a good impression on a man, the man smart, mature, attractive, she came home to do the dream.
Shirley then believe in Daniel's words, she would have a good impression on others, this is a sign of good health, and I have nothing to do with the feelings of Daniel. In fact, their relationship is very stable, the second year of marriage.
Therefore, to produce goodwill is anything that can happen. This has nothing to do with the feelings of good or bad.
So how to face your desire?
1 Pay attention to it and accept it
But do not over-emphasis, as if you dance together with the dance partner is very good, you enjoy this moment, but you clearly understand that confused hormones do not mean to love to get along.
So, give each other freedom to allow flirting, but, you can say, most flirting.
2 Check to see if your relationship is a problem
You have a good impression on others, may be related to this person does not matter, but your own relationship needs to be repaired, for example, if you have a lot of romantic ideas for others, perhaps because your relationship is not romantic enough, you need this. Or your feelings need more attention, you need more attention to each other. To repair the existing feelings, often can be maintained for a long time.
3 sense of crisis is also a taste
The desire for others, I feel that life is a sign of life, you can put this fresh energy, feelings to bring you to enjoy with your partner.
But also let partners know, I will look around the people Oh. My love for you is sincere, at the same time, my body is also flowing with the hormones may lead to derailment, is to spend some thought to keep Oh.
Perhaps you will find that sporadic affection for yourself or your partner for others will be a boost to your relationship.
So, in summary, a good impression is that anyone will be lasting things, which with either of you is not love each other has nothing to do. Enjoy the feelings of the moment, but also treasure your relationship.
At a distance of only three months of the wedding, the groom's hair made a small look. Xiao Yao first saw him, heart on the bang bang, because the boy is her food, big man, muscular, the most charming smile.
Three people all weekend together, small Yao and the groom's hair is very obvious from the chemical reaction. While the groom is not, he said to Xiao Yao, you do not, the groom is not good, if you decide not to marry, and then go to him.
At that time, a small Yao made a mistake to be said. She thought she had a desire to others, it is impossible to really love the groom. So the whole thing told the prospective groom, canceled the engagement. The groom was injured, both families are very disappointed. Because they have been together for 6 years, the two people get along very well, we all feel that two people are made of a perfect match.
Xiao Yao really went to the bad boy, want to know with the boy 's chemical reaction is not true. 2 months down, she found two people simply do not get together. Boys do not want to settle down, like to go out to play, but a workaholic, do not work like a person to stay when he felt a small Yao occupied his personal space. 2 months down, it is clear that two people is the game. Xiao Yao very painful to leave.
At first she thought it was because she did not like the groom, or she will not produce hormones to others. Later, in retrospect. She found herself wrong, the problem in their own, not ready to marry the state.
So, I want to talk about today, if you have the desire of others, it shows you do not love your partner yet?
In the animal kingdom, geese are very specific animals. If a goose is dead, its partner will not find another goose. But we are not geese, our life cycle is much longer than the goose. If you lose a partner, or lose interest in a partner, we can find one. We are in addition to their lover, to see more than two, is to see two things are very natural, are from the results of biological instinct.
We have a point of view, in order to keep love, it must be loyal.
However, love is deep, does not mean that we will not have a chemical reaction to others.
If the desire to feel that this shows that they do not love each other, and to have doubts, and feel to go with the feelings, to break up, it is not right, this thing to separate. Like the story of a small Yao, do not treat this as you, your partner lacks the sign of love.
Say another story.
Shirley met Mr. Now, Daniel, on a vacation.
Shirley did not like Daniel in the beginning, in the resort, she saw him with every beautiful girl accosted. She intuition Daniel is not fly, is a playboy.
Until one day, 2 people walk to dawn, could not finish, they fall in love.
To determine the relationship, Shirley said his own questions, Daniel asked her, do you think I betrayed you? You know I did not. I am a social animal, I will have a good impression on other women, but I will not take this as love, it will not affect my feelings with you, I love you is profound and lasting.
Shirley did not believe the beginning, then at a ball, she had a good impression on a man, the man smart, mature, attractive, she came home to do the dream.
Shirley then believe in Daniel's words, she would have a good impression on others, this is a sign of good health, and I have nothing to do with the feelings of Daniel. In fact, their relationship is very stable, the second year of marriage.
Therefore, to produce goodwill is anything that can happen. This has nothing to do with the feelings of good or bad.
So how to face your desire?
1 Pay attention to it and accept it
But do not over-emphasis, as if you dance together with the dance partner is very good, you enjoy this moment, but you clearly understand that confused hormones do not mean to love to get along.
So, give each other freedom to allow flirting, but, you can say, most flirting.
2 Check to see if your relationship is a problem
You have a good impression on others, may be related to this person does not matter, but your own relationship needs to be repaired, for example, if you have a lot of romantic ideas for others, perhaps because your relationship is not romantic enough, you need this. Or your feelings need more attention, you need more attention to each other. To repair the existing feelings, often can be maintained for a long time.
The desire for others, I feel that life is a sign of life, you can put this fresh energy, feelings to bring you to enjoy with your partner.
But also let partners know, I will look around the people Oh. My love for you is sincere, at the same time, my body is also flowing with the hormones may lead to derailment, is to spend some thought to keep Oh.
Perhaps you will find that sporadic affection for yourself or your partner for others will be a boost to your relationship.
So, in summary, a good impression is that anyone will be lasting things, which with either of you is not love each other has nothing to do. Enjoy the feelings of the moment, but also treasure your relationship.
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